It's hard to be on the wrong end of an argument, believe me I know! Even after you’ve realized you’re wrong, it’s tough to back down and say, “Okay, I see your point, you’re right.” Choking down your pride is not an easy thing to do. But there is a saying I heard many years ago that has stayed with me to this day and I like to remind couples and friends that…it is better to effective than to be right.

Let that sink in for a moment. If what you truly desire in your life is joy and happiness and strong relationships, being right all the time doesn’t make any of those things work. Being effective in coming to a resolution does. And you’re going to be more effective as a reasonable, loving person than someone who just wants to be right no matter the consequence. Life is far too short to have a need to be right all the time and sacrifice love, friendships and family relationships because of it.

So ask yourself: In your relationships, are you trying to be right more often than you are trying to be effective? If you answered yes, then STOP. Stop fighting, stop fussing and be a more effective friend, parent or spouse. I’ve pried into the lives of enough people to know it’s just not worth the heartache.